Too late

by Aaron
(Vancouver)

Why couldn't you have told me this five years ago?

My ex-wife and I are just completing our divorce. The kids are not happy. Nor are we.

It happened just as you said.

After the second kid, she lost interest in sex again, but it didn't come back, even after she stopped breast-feeding. We just got farther and farther apart. I couldn't do anything right. We decided there was nothing to save and we wouldn't do the kids any favors to stay married.

Now I'm in an apartment and she had to move to a smaller house, and the kids go back and forth. The wife gets them about 80 percent. She thought she'd join clubs and activities and meet somebody new, but she has no time. I thought I could get my finances back together and maybe meet somebody new. At least, now I know to ask her to stop taking the pill for a while if we get serious. That's if I ever meet her.

EDitor sez:

Sorry to hear that.
Five years ago, we didn't know about this... "we" being us, here at MHT. Some scientists knew about it, but it wasn't widely publicized. But, it's starting to get more attention, despite the wishes of the various pharmaceutical companies that make and sell birth-control pills.

While we think of it, the MALE birth-control pills that are in trials currently are likely to change both the scent and the perceptions of the men who use them, so if/when the man discontinues a male pill, he could find himself suddenly less attractive to his mate, or/and he could find himself feeling differently about how she smells once his smeller begins perceiving her scent without the distortion of his own hormones.

When they were checking for side-effects like increased cancer or heart-attack or stroke risk, you can bet they were NOT checking for disruption of marriages and long-term relationships as side-effects to investigate...